Sunday, April 3, 2016

Spring Break


I was lucky to be able to take all week off to hang with my favorite 7 year old.

We had a blast on a little hike and
checking out a nature center.
We enjoyed Easter with cousins, grandparents,
aunts and uncles. There were multiple
egg hunts and the love of all things in
eggs seems to continue to grow.

She found this house on clearance the day after Easter when we
were grocery shopping. She hugged it for the rest of our trip to the store.
When we got home she opened it on her own while I unpacked the
groceries. I was in charge of the frosting. She was in charge. I put it
where she told me to and she placed all the candies. We made her
bunny house vision a reality and she loved it. 
She loves the water, but swimming had become a challenge.
We quit private swim class in October when she would
scream in terror the drive there and the entire session. The
teacher was wonderful, kind, and patient, but it was not
what we wanted for her experience. I planned to take her
swimming for fun weekly. It is now 6 months later and
this is the second time we went. The first time was terrible.
She never calmed down and it was crowded and rough.
When our friends invited us to play at the pool we warned
them that there would be some fear and screaming.
She screamed going in and for the first 15 minutes. Then
something clicked. She had a blast. She tried doing laps, jumping,
paddling, standing up, jumping again.  After two hours I asked her
to get out. She got out, signed "more please" and pointed back to
the pool. I let her have ten more minutes twice before it was
really time to go. I hope she has this much fun next time!
She has a bird fear. As a result she has aversion to entering
any buildings at the zoo. This visit she choose the swamp.
After that, I chose the reptile house. She fought me a bit, but
I explained she made her pick and this was my pick. She was
okay with it. We spent about 45 minutes in the reptile house.
She adored it. Her favorite was the black headed python. She
wouldn't leave his enclosure. We probably stood there for 20
minutes. The whole trip was super fun. We even saw
the elusive arctic fox, who she decided must be a kitty
because one was curled up sleeping in a ball. 
We ventured across the state to see wonderful family and
butterflies at the gardens.We had discussed the outing for
a few days before we went. She had been excited.
She became extremely agitated upon entering the building.
With all the successes of the week this was one bridge
too far. These butterflies inspired extreme fear, she was
inconsolable. Our family was amazing and handled
the issue with grace. They tried to distract and teach her.
They were patient and understanding.  After I tried to
comfort her and explain butterflies can not hurt her we decided
to get out of the butterfly area ASAP. We had a blast on
the grounds, in the children's garden, with the sculptures.
We wanted to check out the new Japanese Garden. On the way
she saw the horse and wanted to go to it. We agreed horse
after Japanese garden. We went out on an island and were
sitting and chatting in a gazebo. She grabbed her talker and
stated " I want horse". So, off we ran to the horse.
 

Friday, March 11, 2016

My kid is awesome

There, I said it, really it is just a fact. She is awesome. I was lucky enough to get to spend the day with her today. I took the day off to go on a field trip to Disney on Ice. Jessie from Toy Story has a special place in her heart. When Woody and Buzz came out she asked me for Jessie and I told her she might not be there. When Jessie came out, she hit my arm to get my attention, point to Jessie, and nearly yelled her approximation which is closer to DeeDee. It was so cool. She just glowed.

I let her choose if she wanted to back to school on the bus or hang with mom. She chose me!

So, off we went to pick up a few spring clothes which she picked out herself. She filtered, she put a few back, and made great choices. Then she bee lined to the Disney Store. Her sense of direction always continues to amaze me. She did the rounds of the store and then focused in on a stuffed Minnie Mouse. She showed it to me and held up on finger. It meant "Please, Mom, Can I have one pick?".  Yes, one pick (I am a sucker, sue me). With more wandering she found Minnie Bank, she ran and put back the stuffed animal and showed me the bank with her one finger again, to show me she replaced her one pick.

Then she tried to take us to the candy store. I said no. No fit was thrown. She said "Go?" and we went back to the car.

Next stop was a favorite park. It is 50 and sunny, really, just glorious out.  We played, and spun, and played some more. When she she feel down, she wiped herself off and tried again. Then she practiced until she mastered it.


Not today, look at all those leaves
She is so brave. There is a fence maze with a metal grated stairway you can climb to see the whole maze and direct people. She chose, with no prompting, to climb the stairs even though she was scared. She clung to my leg and climbed to the top, over and down the other side. She did the same thing with the elevator in the nature center.



She got the pond over look before me, and said "Ma, Ff" while pointing at me and then signing fish. I love being included. I love her telling me what she sees.
 I love the damn fish.

It was the kind of day that left me near tears of joy, a little weepy in a good way. Thankful that this smart, creative, assertive, sweet, thoughtful, brave, passionate kid is mine. Yea, my kid is awesome.

Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Great Bike Giveaway

UPDATE: She won a buddy bike in the raffle!  Watch for photos and videos once we have it :) We are so excited!
Me, an ambassador :)


We feel weird that we entered this giveaway / raffle / fundraiser. We are not wanting to put food on the table or fun in our lives, but we do not have a $3k adaptive bike budget. We still hope C will ride a typical bike someday (and she already has one, that is in the budget), but she has been on the cusp for two years. She can pedal, she can steer when she pays attention, but the balance and the attention span are just not quite there. Bikes give you a new way to see the world, the wind in your hair, the fun of the adventures, the power of the pedal.

I look through the other entrants in the Great Bike Giveaway and see many with much higher need. They do not love riding their big wheels, and the adaptive bike they wish for is very different than the one we want. The goal is to get a bike for all 600 entrants, but if enough is not raised it will be a drawing for those with over 100 votes. I don't want to take anyone else's bike.

This is the bike we want for C to be able to join us on bike rides on the trails by our home

The cool thing about the Great Bike Giveaway is we are not competing. You can vote for every single entrant if you take time. You do not need to choose one child. If it is a cause you want to get behind you can donate. That is what funds the bikes. We donated, we want as many of the kids as possible to get a bike. No guilt! If you are looking for a way to really change a child's life it is a great place to start.

So, please take 2 seconds and vote for my charming, sweet, smart, kind, little girl. If you have 10 more seconds please vote for a few more kids wishing for the chance to ride a bike.

VOTE VOTE VOTE

Thursday, February 18, 2016

Again! Again!

I theorize special needs parents have more theories about kids shows, ideas for spoofs no one else would understand, and time to think about the enormous holes in premises or plots because our kids fixate on a few shows or movies for a longer period of time. Maybe this is just my kid, but we have been watching "Wonder Pets", "Cars", and "Oswald" FOREVER.


I will admit a crazy amount of joy in discovering "Robot Chicken" took the time to visit with Linny, Tuck and Ming Ming.  It is off color, it makes me laugh. You can choose for yourself if you click on it.  If over years you have seen every episode of "Wonder Pets" at least twice and some favorites more than 50 times that makes it funnier, just sayin'.


How are the characters in "Cars" born? Who taught McQueen to race? How old is he? How did he not know anyone until Radiator Springs? Does he have parents? Did he grow up rich and sheltered? Do they live forever? Can a mechanic / doctor replace every part? If so, what gives each vehicle identity or soul? Is it a post apocalyptical world where the people created the vehicles and then the vehicles took over and killed all the people off?

 Is Daisy a cannibal when she eats a salad? Why does Flippy live in the water, but Oswald lives in the air? What makes Weenie a pet? How did they decide how many roller skates Oswald would need? Why doesn't Johnny melt? Is he selling his offspring?  Peppa has similar, though less surreal, questions. How do they have pets? What decides if you see Dr. Hamster (a vet) or Dr. Brown Bear (a doctor)?

There was a period where she loved "Penguins" and currently she can not get enough of "Home". I think she would watch "Home" multiple times every day if we would let her. I love this "Home" trend as she acts out many parts of this movie, including lots of hugs, and has a line up toys she needs, including a hello kitty heart that helps her find "my mom" when they use the map. I am excited when she is willing to give something new a chance, as she is usually resistant. The excitement fades quickly as we watch the same thing over and over and over.

I  found an About Me project from three years ago and her favorites were... drum roll please... "Wonder Pets", "Cars", and "Oswald".  

What are favorites in your house? Any theories you have been searching for a venue to explore? Any answers to the questions above?

Wednesday, February 17, 2016

Not Feeling Well

Clues of Illness
1) Would not put Abby Cadabby down
2) Took Abby instead of Talker when we left the house
3) Refused ice cream
4) Little appetite in general

How She Threw Me Off
1) Didn't stop jumping for joy
2) Look at that smile
3) Chatty as can be
4) We were on vacation from school and PJs and lounging were the norm

Results
1) Fever
2) Fades out in the evening
3) More days off school
4) Snuggles


AAC Specialist

About six months ago we started seeing an SLP that specializes in AAC, alternative and augmentative communication, devices. He is a MAN! We once had a teenage boy teach swimming, every other professional has been female.  Really, that is not important, but it is nice for her to interact with man in this type of environment.  

She is awesome at communicating her needs and wants. We want to know what she is thinking, have her be able to ask us things, and use her device for more than answering questions from the outside.

He is focused on her using her talker (AAC device) more conversationally. They have been working on "where" as the first question word to master. Every week she chooses a toys box, usually the baby, and then he hides things she needs to play with.  She has to ask on her talker "Where is the baby?" or "Baby is hungry. Where is the bottle?" He coaches her when she defaults to "I want baby." or "I want bottle.". 

They struggle, some days she wants to work with him and some days she doesn't. We drive an hour each way for her 30 minute appointment. Recently she just cried for 27 minutes because she didn't want to work with him. This center has an observation room where I watch the sessions and can hear everything they do. I am so thankful for this to see their progress and learn strategies, but also to know she had not mistreated her and not have to worry too much about her crying for a week. 

One cool thing that has developed recently with her talker is describing things she sees, when we don't ask. If "Wonder Pets" are headed to save an animal then she says the name of the animal on her talker. If she sees a baby, or a snack, or a ____. She tells us on her talker. This new spontaneous talking is not in complete sentences, and sometimes makes context difficult, but it is spontaneous! 

Rufus Kisses

It is nice having the love of a girl (and her mom) when you are an old dog.

Saturday, July 4, 2015

So, yeah, I abandoned the blog for 18 months. These things happen. We have been busy.


 There was a sixth birthday....



                                           ...and a seventh.



A deep love of Hello Kitty was discovered, and we now feature her on every surface of the house. 



 We are sadly now a one dog house.  


We listed our house, accepted an offer, and have found a new house. 
We hope to move to before the summer is over.  

Of course there was more. Maybe there are stories to tell. We will see. 



I WANT TALKING

Yesterday, after spending a long time searching her device for what she wanted to say. She finally gave up and with a pout used it to say "I want talking".  I think my heart actually broke.  I know it is motivating she is frustrated. I know it is awesome her device gives her a way to express it.  I just wish it wasn't so hard for her.

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Saturday, December 21, 2013

The Mayo Clinic Adventure

C, Granny, and I hopped in the car this past Monday morning for the 9.5 hour drive to Mayo Clinic.

We decided to stay at a "family resort" outside of Chicago because (a) it was going to snow (b) it was less than 2 miles from the path we would be traveling and (c) there was pool and bowling alley in the hotel.  The first leg of the drive was a piece of cake and as we checked into the hotel the snow began to fall.  It snowed steadily that evening and we were glad we decided to take the extra travel day.  We came to discover the pool and bowling alley were in a different building on the campus and due to the snow decided we didn't want to go back outside with wet hair.  So, we drove into the town of Itasca.  We grabbed a coffee and found America's Best Train, Toy, and Hobby Shop.  They had more Geotrax and Cars stuff than we have ever seen in one location.  We picked a treasure or two after about an hour of browsing and were off to a local pizza place for yummy dinner.

Tuesday morning we had breakfast and jumped back in the car to Madison for lunch and a visit to the Children's Museum.  We had so much fun running around and playing.   This museum has building toys, an art area with lots of projects, and a huge area to run ramps, climb stairs, slide down slides and more.  It was a great stop and everyone had fun.  Back in the car we went for the final leg of our trip.  The little one had a nap in the back.  Granny and I were excited to cross the Mississippi and enjoyed the landscape changes.  We arrived in Rochester after dark, stopped for a bite to eat and were off to get settled in to our home for the week.

We decided to rent "4 Private bedrooms in Rochester, Minnesota".  For a fair rate we rented the downstairs from someone's private residence.  I had hemmed and hawed about this decision for quite some time as I was nervous about staying with a stranger; but just a hotel room for the three of us for the week sounded tight.  We were to have 4 bedrooms, a living room, and bathroom.  We found the house and met our host and her beautiful baby.  She only had two beds made up for us (which is all we really needed) and we were surprised to find space heaters in every room, outlets with no plate covers, open vents, and a few other minor issues.  When I asked how we were supposed to come and go, there was no key available for us "yet". And the wi-fi was down.  We unpacked and got settled in, ready to make the best of it.  As the night progressed it became frigid.  It was the kind of camping cold where you can not move under your enormous pile of blankets because it might break the seal and the air could enter.  As I lay in the cold not sleeping I concluded we would leave in the morning, this was completely unreasonable.

At 4 am I awoke to C waking abruptly coughing, and throwing up all over our bed.  There was no bath tub, no paper towels, no extra sheets, and we had to leave the bed in the cold to clean it up.  I pulled out the wipes, threw the sheets in the wash (benefit of staying in someone's basement), got C settled in with blankets and her iPad and packed up all our stuff.  I called and made a reservation at the hotel I had been considering while hemming and hawing.  We could check in at noon.  I should mention she was not sick on the way there or again after we left, I think it was related to the cold.  Also, our hosts apologized, there is usually heat and it was supposed to be fixed before our arrival, but they did not think it was important to tell us before our arrival or during our stay.

C had an appointment at 7:30 and then one at 10:30.  We drove to the Mayo Clinic complex, Granny dropped us off at what we thought was the right building, and went to park the car.  We were a few buildings off, but everything is connected by tunnels and we made it to the first appointment tired, but on time.   C doesn't like medical environments, the more medical it seems the less she likes it.  When I say she doesn't like it I mean: "if someone comes near her in a medical environment she screams like you are peeling off her toenails." We have never had a successful blood pressure reading as she will not calm down enough for it if someone is near her.  After much screaming they had checked her height and weight.  We saw a neurologist who is the gatekeeper to get into the speech and language department we were really there to see.  We had time for breakfast in the cafeteria before headed to see Dr. Strand, a leading apraxia researcher who is part of the team I heard present at the national conference last year.  At this point we had been up since 4 am and C was holding it together, but was not at her best to meet someone new for an evaluation.

Corinne was semi-cooperative for the first day of the evaluation.  The office had a sofa and a kid size table and chairs.  This made C much more comfortable than a room with an exam table.  They did a receptive language test, we discussed her skills and challenges, and discussed the intensive program they have for a select few appropriate candidates.  This first day, she told us she did not believe C was ready for the type of therapy that is most effective in treating Childhood Apraxia of Speech.  The therapy in their intensives use no games or pictures.  The focus is getting as many repetitions as possible by the child watching the therapists face and mimicking what the therapist does.  When we completed that first appointment we grabbed lunch and were able to check into the hotel.

Oh, the luxury!  There was heat!  There was a pool in the building!  It is connected to the Mayo system through the indoor tunnels!  We had keys!  It was lovely.  Joy and relief were felt in our very nice mini-suite with a half wall between the sitting room and beds and everyone laid down for a much needed nap.  It was an excellent decision to move to the hotel.  The pool was 3 feet deep all the way around, Corinne could touch all the time and loved it.

The following days, we had additional appointments with Dr. Strand and she was surprised how different C behaved from that first meeting.  We learned and practiced some new strategies and are stepping back to focus on empowering C to know she has control.  We are doing large and small, tight and loose, and fast and slow motions to learn what they feel like on our big muscle groups and then moving to our smaller muscles in our hands and face.  We are also using physical and spatial cues to elongate or shorten (control) sounds.  Her ability to maintain focus, ability to control her body, and language (not speech) are the suggested focuses for the time being.

The ability to walk from the hotel to our appointments, stores, restaurants, and more without stepping foot outside was fantastic.  There is a grand piano on the subway floor of the building our appointments were in.  Most times, someone was playing the piano or choirs were singing, and crowds were gathered to enjoy.  There are volunteers around every corner waiting to direct you as you find yourself lost (again) in the maze of tunnels.  Mayo was efficient and well planned.  It was an unusual feeling looking around any room or hall and trying to imagine each person's story and what brought them there.  We only left the enclosed tunnels of Mayo once more to visit Costco, and a blow up jumping place.  The Costco was empty. There were no lines or crowds the week before Christmas and this was busy for them. Minnesota is strange land.

Out last appointment wrapped up at noon yesterday.  We were able to conference Kevin in for the recommendations, questions, and observation summary.  We were on the road by 1 pm and drove straight through to arrive home at 1:45 am this morning.  C changed into PJs in Chicago, read a story, and went right to bed.  I can not thank my mom enough for joining us on this adventure.  I am not sure what we would have done without her.  She was a great driving companion well into the night when we were getting sleepy and silly.  It is so nice to be home.  We missed Kevin and the hounds like crazy.