We have decided we are going to have one child. We never tried for number two. We didn't have any issues conceiving. We are not too old. We have three bedrooms. Our marriage is happy and stable. We love her with all our hearts. She is the best thing that has ever happened to us. She is sweet, smart, charming, and kind. I have never met anyone I love more.
I always thought I wanted two. I am still jealous when I hear someone tell tales of their big family with 6 or 10 siblings. It sounds so fun... I worry I am doing my one amazing child a disservice by not giving her a sibling. I just don't think that is the right reason to create another life.
Every decision has pros and cons. Kids with siblings have to share, practice more social skills, and someone they will spend their lives with. I love having an adult sibling, but was not always a fan.
I feel sad when I think about my husband and I aging. That she will be stuck with us alone, no one to share the burden. I worry about her not having siblings after we pass. She has cousins close to her in age. That will have to be enough.
I feel sad when I think about my husband and I aging. That she will be stuck with us alone, no one to share the burden. I worry about her not having siblings after we pass. She has cousins close to her in age. That will have to be enough.
She has no interest in sharing our attention. When we went to visit her new cousin for a week she did not even look at the baby. When they were here for two weeks she still did not want to hold her. I love babies, and giving them back to their moms and dads.
One child allows us to give her 100%. She needs our time and love. We spend a lot of time in speech, in OT, in camps, in bounce lands, in water parks, at playgrounds, in music class, with friends, learning new things, and having fun. We would have to limit these if we had more kids sharing our love, time, and budget.
Therapists are often surprised how much time we spend researching and executing to try to find the best options. I hear how it is unusual. It is all part of the choices we have made. We chose to have just one child. We chose for me to stay home with her and be her primary care giver.
We are still at an age where she just gets more and more fun. I don't want to start over. I might regret our decision when she is 14 and hates me. I am confident when she is 20 and realizes we are awesome it will all be fantastic.
At the end of the day, it is our decision. To each their own.
Kind Regards,
Momma (to one fantastic kid)
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